
The other side of things..

Musings on personal growth, how people look at things, random observations and points of general interest all with a focus on having things work well.
DrDivo: So, I have a direct question - if you're not interested in being social with me, will you please say so - I don't like asking you to spend time with me if it's not something you're interested in.
gaysportnut: any big plans for the weekend
gaysportnut: I never said that....I have been busy
DrDivo: we've had plans to be social three times in the last month, and each time you've just failed to show. So, that's why I'm asking. Having grown up in the midwest, I understand how communication works. "I never said that" means "yes, you're right but I'm trying to be polite and not say something hurtful.' So I have my answer. My stepmother talks EXACTLY the same way.
gaysportnut: fine sorry you took it that way
DrDivo: well, what am I supposed to think? You blew me off for dinner and didn't communicate with me about it BUT asked one of my friends out before replying to my email asking you what happened. I just feel like a clueless
DrDivo: idiot for having asked you to hang out with me at all
gaysportnut: I didn't ask any of your friends out to dinner
DrDivo: Okay, whatever
gaysportnut: and when did I blow you off for dinner
DrDivo: Thursday, last week, we had plans.
DrDivo: no call, no email, no show. Third time.
gaysportnut: I asked Tommy to dinner like 4 weeks ago....I didn't ask anyone else or ask him again
DrDivo: okay, whatever