How do you intervene in institutionalized child abuse and the adult aftermath? How do you help someone without yourself being taken over by their need? How do you tell someone that they need professional help in such a way that they take no offense and take action?
It's so difficult to love someone who is in so deep. In observing this, it seems to me that many people who come from this background cannot be thought responsible for their own choices - behavior being so automatically programmed - that they need protection and help, not punishment and recrimination.
And yet, where is the line of personal responsibility - both mine and theirs?
The law of attraction is so clear in observation - meaning, when I am the observer. People's fears express themselves most crisply, in the face of their complete blindness.
How does one use this ability to see for good?
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By loving them enough to confess that their needs are such that they are beyond your capabilities to help and that you care so much that their pain be resolved and for healing to take place. AND you get a list of possibile places that can help them along with phone numbers. And that you can only support them as far as they are willing to work on their issues. Not easy but it can be done with love.
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